The base size variation of Front Wrap Cross Carry tied at the shoulders is one of my favorite carries. It's just as supportive as Front Wrap Cross Carry, but ties at the shoulder. The tied at shoulder look is very pretty and also makes for a carry that can be easily raised and lowered for feeding or adjusted while wearing. Another benefit to this carry is that it lies flat in the back, which makes it a comfortable carry for sitting. Here's a photo-tutorial! Begin your carry just like regular Front Wrap Cross Carry, except start with one tail just long enough to hang to your hip. To begin, you will have one short tail (about hip length) and one long tail. Guide baby's legs through the horizontal pass and seat baby on the bunched horizontal pass to position baby. Bring the top edge of the fabric up over baby's back. Holding baby with one hand, reach under baby's leg and grab the bottom edge of the fabric. Use the bottom edge to sweep baby's knees upward, bringing her knees higher than her bottom. In between you, the bottom edge of the wrap will make a straight line from knee to knee. Tighten each strand of both tails until the horizontal pass is evenly snug around baby. Bring the long tail straight across your back. Take the tail under the knee and then across baby's bottom to the crook of the other knee. Keep the wrap over the second knee. Finally, bring the long tail up to meet the short tail. Tie a slipknot at the shoulder. If you choose, you can spread out the cross passes over baby's back. It is also fine to leave them bunched. Spread passes tend to be a bit warmer and a bit more supportive for an older/heavier baby. Bunched passes are airier and cooler.
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One day this week, my oldest daughter who is seven now, was chilly and asked for a blanket. I didn’t have a blanket nearby and wrapped her in one of my favorite wraps. When I draped it over her, it hit me suddenly that the last time she was in that wrap was the last time I had ever worn her. I can remember the day just like it was yesterday. I was SO pregnant and waiting for our third baby to be born. Anna and I had just gotten home from school (I was a teacher at the school she attended) and there was a surprise package on the doorstep. When I opened it, I found a sweet gift from my best BWI SO MD friends. It was this lovely green wrap, one that somehow they had known I wanted. It was just Anna and I in the house and I asked her if she’d go up in the wrap so that we could test it out. She was five, almost finished with Kindergarten. She had always loved to be wrapped and so of course, she agreed. I sat down on the couch and let her climb onto my back herself (since this 40 week pregnant woman was not superman tossing or hip scooting her!) and I wrapped her in a simple ruck that I could barely tie off because of my belly. We twirled and danced a little, and then went to the mirror to take a selfie. Had I known that was the last time I’d ever wrap her, maybe I would have taken a few more selfies, or just soaked it up a bit more. Maybe I would have taken one more twirl around the living room. It’s funny how your babywearing time can just end like that, a weaning so slow neither of you even notice it happening. Slowly, you are wearing them less and less. Then one day, you wear your child and it never happens again. I can still wrap my arms around her and wrap her in love. I will treasure our last "baby" wearing selfie.
So, when your toddler, or preschooler, or kindergartner asks for a ride in your carrier, enjoy the moment. Take a photo, breathe in their sweet baby (or kindergartner) smell, snuggle them for one extra minute. Remember, even when you can no longer wrap them to your body in fabric, you can always wrap them in your arms and in your love. by Jennah Watters, ABE
I didn't start babywearing until a bit later on with my first child. At around 2-3 months I started using a Moby and Bjorn, and it wasn't until around 6 months that I started using a ring sling and purchased my first woven wrap. So I was really excited to start babywearing from the beginning with baby #2 (plus, I knew I'd kind of need to with a 3.5 year old to keep up with, too!). Here's a little primer on my experience and recommendations for babywearing from the start. If you plan to babywear in the hospital, know that you will only be able to do so in your room in most cases. Most hospitals require babies to be rolled in the bassinet if they are out in the hallway. Ring slings are my favorite carrier in general, and are great for newborns. I decided to pack a ring sling in my hospital back to use there. Ring slings are pretty quick and easy (practice with a baby doll at home first if you are not well-versed, and read our post with tips and tricks!), small to pack, and don't require tying around your midsection. Woven wraps are also a good choice if you are having a vaginal birth and are already comfortable using them, but a base size wrap will be much larger to pack. A Moby is a good option as well for the same reason, or a properly-fitted k'tan. A one-shouldered carry is also less of a concern when baby probably clocks in at less than 10 lbs (though mine was close to above it!). The only carrier I really would not recommend for hospital or very early use is a soft-structured carrier. Even with an infant insert, they are not ideal for very new babies and would not be as comfortable immediately postpartum as some other options. Having a c-section? You definitely won't want anything around your tummy! Some said that they still found a Moby comfy, but most said that either a ring sling or a k'tan was most comfortable while healing from surgery, as there was nothing on their waist at all. As always, only do what you are comfortable with. Only wear when you and baby are ready, and consult your doctor and/or baby's doctor if you have any concerns. Also remember that newborns are more at risk for breathing difficulty since they have no head control, so be sure you are comfortable with your carrier before putting baby in. And we are always happy to help in the chatter group if you post photos to troubleshoot! BWI of Southern Maryland is seeking sponsors! We are a nonprofit organization run entirely by volunteers, and keep ourselves going through membership fees and donations. We are now actively seeking sponsors to help increase our reach and improve the organization!
We have lots of different sponsorship opportunities available at multiple price points that we hope will be beneficial to both businesses and group members. If you or someone you know has a business that is interested in becoming a sponsor and reaching a large and active group of caregivers of young children in the Southern Maryland area, please contact us at [email protected] and use the subject "Sponsor Inquiry". We will send you our sponsorship letter with more information. by Alisa Barnes, VBE Before this past weekend, babywearing had been just this thing that I did. Don’t get me wrong, I do love it and I wear my son a lot. I think we all have our own personal reasons why babywearing is so amazing. If you’re new just wait for all the awesome things babywearing has in store for you! You could catch us at Target, the farmers market, making dinner, folding laundry or even just walking up the street to check the mail. I say this because I think we are all aware of the functionality of babywearing, but none of that prepared me for what I experienced this past weekend. It appears that my son has asthma, which was something that I was neither aware of nor prepared for. We just spent 4 days in the hospital and the only thing that kept me going was babywearing. As mothers and fathers nothing truly prepares us to witness our children sick. As a high strung first-time mom there was absolutely nothing that could have prepared me. I always keep at least 2 carriers in my car just because and I’ve never been more grateful for that. Seeing my son hooked up to machines and IV’s and monitors is a sight that will take me a while to forget. That feeling of helplessness is something that I’ll probably never forget.
A large portion of our time at the hospital was spent with doctors and nurses telling me how serious my son’s condition was and that our current course of action wasn’t helping him quickly enough. A big problem was that his heart rate was very high. A nurse told me that they were concerned that his body would get tired from working so hard for so long and that they needed to fix that as quickly as possible. It’s safe to say that I was hysterical at this point. I’ve used babywearing to calm my son hundreds of times, but in this instance I chose to babywear to calm myself. The need to be close to my son was tangible. Since my son was still hooked up to many things I knew a back carry was out. I tried to force my brain to remember Poppins carry (PHC), but it refused. I attempted to front wrap cross carry (FWCC), but the cords on his feet made it impossible to slide him inside the pocket. I had to FWCC while holding my son, which was super hard for me, and tied it under his bum. As I wrapped him I watched his heart rate slow to normal and felt him lay his head on my chest. I cried—like ugly cried. Our nurse commented that I had “all sorts of cool tricks”. I’m okay with that observation, although, I wouldn’t personally call babywearing a trick. I think it’s a tried and true tool that caregivers have been using for years. That carry marked one of many “ups” that my son and I shared during our stay in the hospital. I also have a feeling that that “up” will be my most cherished babywearing memory forever. We’d love to hear from you! Please tell us about a time that babywearing really helped you or tell us about your favorite babywearing memory! by Your BWI SoMD VBEs photos shared with permission by BWI SoMD members Babywearing selfies are a fun way to celebrate babywearing. Many of us snap at least one almost every time baby goes up! Though it’s easy to feel a little babywearing-obsessed if you share a bunch of them on social media, I encourage you to share all those selfies on your phone! I know how many are on there. I've seen your selfie folder. Why share all the selfies? Here are six reasons why we love your selfies: 1. You are my friend and I enjoy seeing pics of you! I like seeing what makes up your days! You are doing such an amazing job caring for young kids, so I like seeing pictures of them…but also pictures of you! In your selfies, you almost always look content, happy, and like the great caregiver I know you are. I also am not one of those lucky people who has a partner who likes to take pictures of me without eye rolls, so I know how it is to always be the one behind the camera and never in front of it. Babywearing is one of the times when you and your baby are together and, it looks like, happy. So I totally get why you are in the picture! It’s inspired me to get in the picture as well – with my baby, older kids, husband, or just some awesome scenery in the background. It’s important to be in pictures of everyday life, and your babywearing selfies are a gorgeous depiction of everyday life. I love your happy selfies - I love seeing you at your best - when you are engaged with your family and making memories - it helps me know that part of you, the most authentic side of you. But I also love your tough day selfies - when baby is sick and only wants to be held, when parenthood is overwhelming and you are hanging on by your fingernails - it reminds me that I'm not alone - that the struggle is shared by all of us. It helps me be more patient with myself and more compassionate of others. It gives me a glimpse of that side we normally hide on social media and it helps me be a little more vulnerable too. The more you share of yourself, the more I feel comfortable sharing of myself and the more we learn and grow together. 2. It’s helped me learn something new about caring for babies. Seeing how happy babywearing makes both you and your baby is wonderful. I am interested in what you do! I like being able to PM you or comment on a photo to ask a question so that I can either use the knowledge myself or pass along to someone else I think it will be useful for. Your selfies inspire me to try new things that maybe look unusual or difficult at first, but might actually be awesome! 3. I like seeing how far you have come in your babywearing journey. I remember your first babywearing selfie - I remember how unsure you were asking, "Does this look okay?" and worried that the seat wasn't deep enough or that baby wasn't high enough - and now your babywearing selfies are more confident, they are of you hiking, at the zoo or at the beach. You've broken out of the bathroom mirror, wondering if you are doing things right and now you are out in the world on adventures with your kids! I remember your first back wrap selfie - I remember the story you told about how you had to watch the video three times and still mixed the passes up. I look at your rock star wrap job now and I think about the progress you have made! It encourages me to keep learning and keep trying new things too! I love, love the selfie you posted of when your kiddo popped his seat or refused to be wrapped one day. It makes me feel better when my kiddo goes on a wearing strike or my wrap job goes bad because I know that none of us are perfect and my kid is just going through a normal stage. 4. The kids want to see you in the picture. Once I started allowing myself to get in the picture I found my photos became a lot more candid and a lot more real. By seeing my own face in these pictures I now not only have the means to remember whatever I was trying to capture in the first place, but what I felt that day. One parent often ends up the default family historian, the one to capture the memories and tell the stories - its important to remember that you are a part of that story and one day the kids will appreciate that you are in the picture too. 5. The love you have for your baby is beautiful. We can feel it just looking at the photo, the complete contentment of the sleeping baby on your chest, the sense of accomplishment because of all of the things you did while wearing the baby that would have been difficult otherwise, the joy at the silly moments. In the photo, we can see how empowered you are, how amazing and awesome you are at caring for your little one. These days are long, but fleeting. One day that chubby cheeked baby will be a long legged teen. A selfie helps you capture these halcyon moments and I love that you share them. 6. I hope that taking selfies now with your baby means that you will continue to be in the picture as the baby grows. Keep taking those selfies. I hope you take them long after your child has outgrown babywearing. I want to see selfies for those big moments, first day of kindergarten, graduations, birthdays, but also just those everyday moments. Stay in the picture! I love your babywearing selfies. They are beautiful. You are beautiful. Your baby is beautiful. The love you have for your baby is beautiful. Keep posting them! Let's talk about boats and babies! One question we hear frequently in Southern Maryland is "Can I wear my baby on a boat?" The short answer is . . . No. We are huge fans of babywearing! #WEARALLTHEBABIES! However, in a boat, babies should wear a life jacket. Maryland law states that all children under the age of 13 must wear a coast guard approved Personal Floatation Device (PFD) while on a boat that is under 21 feet long. This includes recreational vessels like ski boats, kayaks, canoes, rowboats, etc. The life jacket should be the appropriate size for the child and in good condition. Children under the age of four must have a life jacket that has a strap that goes between the child's legs, a headrest, and a grab handle. According to the law, children are required to use a life jacket any time the boat is not docked or anchored and any time the child is above deck (if the boat has a lower level). In the event of an emergency while boating, if your baby is strapped to you in a baby carrier (rather than in a PFD), it would be very difficult (maybe impossible) to keep your baby's head above water. Don't take the risk. Use a PFD. So bring your carrier along. It can make a lovely sun shade or cushion. You can use it when you arrive at your destination. In a boat, always use a coast guard approved PFD. For more information on Maryland PFD Laws, see the MD Department of Natural Resources Website here: http://dnr2.maryland.gov/boating/Pages/safetylifejacket.aspx
Learning to nurse in a carrier can make life with your baby much easier. Imagine that you're at the park with your two year old who is running around playing. Your baby is snuggled against your chest in a soft carrier. You are pushing your older child on the swing and you notice that your baby is beginning to root. You lower your carry a bit and help baby latch. You are able to keep pushing your older child on the swing and are comfortably nursing your sweet baby at the same time. Being able to nurse in a carrier for some of baby's frequent feedings can be incredibly helpful. There are so many benefits of babywearing that I couldn't mention them all! (Although this wonderful article by La Leche League includes many of the benefits of babywearing). One benefit of babywearing is that it makes it very easy for a mother to notice baby's early "hungry" cues. Baby will start to turn their head from side to side, open their mouth, put their hands in their mouth, or begin rooting in the carrier when they are hungry. Catching these early signs of hunger can allow the mother to initiate nursing before the baby becomes distressed. The BasicsStep One: Establish your breastfeeding relationship with your baby.First, get to know your new nursling. Help your baby learn to latch. Get used to breastfeeding yourself. Even if this is not your first nursling, there can still be a learning period where your baby gets used to nursing. Take the time you need to establish your nursing relationship. Step Two: Master Using Your Carrier.Likewise, take some time to get used to wearing your baby. If you are new to babywearing, take some time to get to know your carrier and get comfortable with it. Visit your local babywearing group while you're waiting for baby to arrive and practice using your carrier with a doll. Visit your local group again after baby arrives and get some hands on help with positioning. Maybe, you're already a pro at using your carrier and you're wearing baby on day one. Your baby may need some time to get used to being worn. As an anecdote, by the time our third baby arrived, I considered myself to be a pro at babywearing and wrapping in particular. However, she cried every time I put her in a wrap at first. I had to warm her up to it. We spent time sitting on the couch with the wrap just laying on us. I made sure she was well fed and happy before I wrapped her. I took some time to figure out what carries she liked the best. After the first week, she loved being worn, but it was something the two of us had to practice a little to get comfortable. We started with skin to skin time with the wrap over us and then gradually moved toward wearing while moving about. Remembering to wait until the baby is fed, changed, and happy when first trying a new carrier can help. Step Three: Put the Two TogetherWhen you feel that your nursing relationship is well established, your baby is nursing well and you feel very comfortable with your carrier, you can start to combine the two. Once you are nursing in your carrier, pay close attention to your latch and your baby. If baby is especially sleepy while nursing, you may want to take baby out of the carrier to nurse to make sure baby nurses well. Nothing makes baby sleepy quite like being snuggled in a cozy carrier next to their mama. You may find you want to wake your baby up after sleeping a while in the carrier as well just to be sure that baby is nursing plenty of times during the day. Each baby is different and it's important to pay attention to their cues and meet their needs. Tips and Tricks for Breastfeeding in a CarrierLower Baby to the Height Needed to BreastfeedLoosen and lower your carry so that your baby is at breast height. I usually lower until my baby's chin is at my nipple, but everyone is different and you probably will need to play around with how much you need to lower your baby to nurse comfortably. You may also need to try a few different carriers or carries to find the one that works best for you to nurse in. Some people love nursing in mei tais, others love nursing in ring slings. Some people find it difficult to nurse in one wrap carry, but easy in another. A carry that you are able to easily raise and lower to adjust will probably work well for you. Aim Up!I know it sounds silly, but the secret is to aim up! Supporting baby with one hand, lean forward slightly. With the other hand lift your breast toward baby and help baby latch on. After you are latched on, stand up straight again. You will probably need to keep a hand on your breast and a hand on baby's head or an elbow around baby's head to help baby maintain the latch, especially at first. Some people find it helpful to put a rolled up wash cloth under the breast to help keep it lifted. Some people do not ever find nursing in a carrier to be hands free, and that is fine! Wear Shirts that are Easy to Pull Down
You certainly do not need to cover while you are breastfeeding, but if you want to, remember that you should always be able to see your baby's face. You can cover the top of your breast, or make a little tent around yourself using a tail of a carrier or a carrier hood. You should not take a blanket or carrier fabric and cover your baby's entire head. You need to closely monitor your baby to be sure baby is nursing well and breathing well and this is very difficult to do if you can't see your baby. Practicing in front of a mirror can be very helpful. For the most part, the carrier itself and your baby's head will provide great cover. Always Re-position after NursingAfter nursing, always return baby to the original carry. Baby should be fully supported through their back, high enough on your body to kiss, and visible to you. You should always be able to get two fingers under baby's chin to ensure an open airway. After nursing, you will have baby in a lower carry. Place a hand on baby's bum and the nape of baby's neck. Lean forward slightly and then lift baby up to appropriate position (high enough to kiss). Then, tighten the rest of the carrier so that baby is well supported in that position. Video TutorialsNursing in a Ring SlingNursing in a Mei TaiNursing in a Stretchy WrapNursing in a Woven WrapNursing in a Soft Structured CarrierEnjoy your sweet baby!Babies are little for such a short time. Enjoy your sweet baby! Happy nursing and babywearing! :)
In order to better get to know the volunteer educators for BWI of Southern Maryland, we will be featuring an interview with a different volunteer every week. This week’s volunteer spotlight is Christina Fowlkes! Name: Christina Fowlkes Children: Whitman/18 months Volunteer Type: ABE (Advanced Babywearing Educator) BWI Meetings attended: Lexington Park Other jobs, volunteer positions, credentials? La Leche League Leader, retired doula, and co-owner of Marigold, a cloth diaper and natural parenting store in Leonardtown How did you discover babywearing? As a nanny I made a stretchy wrap to wear my charge who had reflux and preferred to be upright and snuggled close. Next we tried a Bjorn, which made me think babywearing might not be for older babies, but an Ergo restored my faith in wearing all the babies! What prompted you to try babywearing? I am a researcher--my college days were spent in labs and databases (I studied Biochemistry and minored in Child Development). As a nanny I tried to stay in the know about all things baby and that led me to the benefits of babywearing! And my doula work introduced me to wraps! What is your favorite type of carrier (wraps/ ring slings/ SSCs/ MTs, etc.) and why? Wraps--one wrap can be used for so many carries and it folds up nicely into my purse. What is your favorite carrier you have owned? I'm a huge fan of the lending library! I exclusively wrap, but I don't own one! I just borrow a new one each month. Variety is the spice of life :) My husband loves our Lillebaby and when it comes to SSCs, it is my fave. What is your favorite carrier from the lending library? Any Girasol. How has babywearing benefited your life? Babywearing made it so much easier to follow my instincts as a mama while still being able to get things done. Plus, it's so nice not lugging a stroller around! I'd much rather have my baby right on me! How has babywearing saved the day? Going to the post office! We obviously are getting a lot of boxes for Marigold and I wouldn't be able to get them without wrapping Whit on my back! You are having a baby and you can pick any carrier (but only one) to last from the newborn stage to the toddler days, what do you pick? A size 5 wrap (Girasol Amitola creme weft)... not that I've thought about it at all! There is a zombie apocalypse. You have time to grab only one carrier, what do you grab? Hmm, I'm thinking an SSC. Probably an Ergo with the big pocket. I'm assuming I have the lending library ;) Otherwise, our Lillebaby. My husband loves this question! Why did you decide to become a VBE? I love our mom community. Mamas helping mamas is what a village is all about and I wanted to be able to share my passion for babywearing like the mamas that shared with me! What is your favorite thing about being a VBE? Getting to hold tiny squishes and help get them snuggled up on their mom or dad! Is there anything babywearing related you are still learning or looking forward to improving? Always! I feel like I learn something at every meeting! I am definitely rusty on my SSC hip carry... as everyone witnessed at the last LP meeting! ;) What are your other hobbies/ interests/ passions? Cloth diapering, supporting local, trying to eat healthy whole foods, breastfeeding, and all things Marigold. We keep a calendar of events and local resources at www.marigoldbaby.com What do you like to do when you are not babywearing? What do I like to do?!? Hmm, having a coffee while hubby sprays out the poopy diapers on Saturday morning is pretty high on my list :) then maybe even showering alone! It's like a mommy spa experience! Tell me something about yourself that has nothing to do with babywearing or children or your Mom status. I have read the Harry Potter series 11 times. I've lost count on the individual books. I stress about how to introduce Harry to Whit. Not only do I love Hogwarts, but I also love organizations of HP fans like thehpalliance.org that fight against real world horcruxes like illiteracy, marriage inequality, and natural disasters. “We do not need magic to change the world, we carry all the power we need inside ourselves already: we have the power to Imagine Better.” – J.K. Rowling" In order to better get to know the volunteer educators for BWI of Southern Maryland, we will be featuring an interview with a different volunteer every week. This week’s volunteer spotlight is Kristin Emerson! Name: Kristin Emerson Children: Max - 5, Maren - 3, Ian - 10m Volunteer Type: ABE (Advanced Babywearing Educator) BWI Meetings attended: Odenton How did you discover babywearing? YouTube! It was winter of 2010 and I had a brand-new baby. He was high needs and I was stuck inside holding him all day, every day. And then I realized Meredith Sinclair, one of my favorite video-makers on YouTube, was local to me at the time, and was starting up a babywearing group. I started attending meetings and was hooked.
When do you babywear most often (either during a particular activity, time of day, or place)? With three kids 5 and under, babywearing is a great tool. We've never needed a double stroller, even with two under 2. I mostly wear my kids when we're out and about - it's at least one less kid to keep track of! There is a zombie apocalypse. You have time to grab only one carrier, what do you grab? Wrap! Hands-down. Not only is it a carrier, it's a blanket, a way to secure a kid without a high chair, um..a tourniquet?...a hammock....still thinking... Why did you decide to become a VBE? I love to teach! My "day job" is teaching college writing, and it seems like as soon as I learn something new, I MUST start teaching others to do it, too. I also see so many new parents struggling in their new roles, and I remember how much babywearing helped me feel more in control of that chaotic phase of life. Is there anything babywearing related you are still learning or looking forward to improving? Every baby is different! Each of my three have/had definite preferences on when and how to be carried, though all three benefited from it. I look forward to learning every day for the rest of the time I wear my little ones. Tell me something about yourself that has nothing to do with babywearing or children or your Mom status? I have a Master's in English Literature and I am a perpetual student. I also love to sew and do crafty things. Thanks for sharing Kristin! We are super lucky you moved to our area! |
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